Enjoy a Very Merry Marriage Holiday Season

Cynthia Greene, MHR, Marriage & Relationship Visionary Strategist

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Most people get excited when the holidays are approaching. Even though 2020 is considered a stressful and non-peaceful time, we can create new holiday traditions, while still holding on to the old ones. Although we may have to do things differently this year, everyone wants to enjoy this time.

The mistletoe berry has been a tradition during the fall holiday season for as many centuries as you can go back. It has been told that it represents fertility, love, romance, peace, friendship, and health. Why? Because when most trees are barren and dead for the winter season, the mistletoe thrives in the cold, winter weather with beautiful green leaves and bright, cheery berries. These berries grow throughout the winter and can only grow when attached to a tree. They cannot grow on their own. Traditionally, we kiss under the tree to represent love, peace, fertility, romance, friendship, and health with the one we love. Just as there are things that grow our happiness and joy during this season, we equate it with the berry.

During this Christmas season, we see bright lights twinkling and red ribbons and bows and green garland and Christmas trees. They all represent life and things that are alive. Just like our savior Jesus Christ. That’s what the season is truly all about. And He brings us new life every day.

So how can we bring new life to this holiday season and our marriages? We share five ways that can help you have a Berry M.E.R.R.Y. Marriage during the holidays.


Make time for each other, your family, your friends and the things you enjoy doing for the holidays. They could be things such as drinking hot chocolate or hot cider beside a warm fire together. It could be you and the kids making a gingerbread house or stringing popcorn for the tree. You could do a Secret Santa gift exchange with your extended family or your friends (there are many online sites that you can use). Or perhaps everyone could put on matching ‘jammies’ and watch a Christmas movie.


Enjoy each other and the others who are in your household. Find creative ways to make this holiday season fun and enjoyable. Don’t think only about Christmas, but New Years is just around the corner too. Start some fun new traditions such as which of you can create the most creative cup of tea or hot chocolate or dessert. Start a family game night or have a Christmas songs Karaoke night. You could also come up with your very own super unique family holiday tradition that you look forward to every year.


Reach out to one another to find out what you really want this season and not just gifts, but what does each family member prefer to do this season. Would they like to go riding and look at all the Christmas decorations? Would they like to decorate their personal bedroom? Do they want to create their own Christmas wish list? Take time to ask, then listen and decide what will work and what won’t.


Responding means taking action with your words and your deeds. If you know your spouse loves to listen to Christmas music during this season, turn up the volume! If you know they like lots of cider and noisy noisemakers for New Years, then hurry to the store and pick some up. Be there for your mate and the other folks in your house. Don’t make this season all about you but be on the lookout for how you can make someone else’s season ‘bright’.


We should always want the best for those who are important in our lives. That means putting our best foot forward. What can you do to make this a great season for you, your spouse, your family, your friends and yes, even a stranger? Don’t forget that this is the season of ‘giving’. What are you giving? What are you doing to make sure this year ends on the best note ever and what are you doing to get your new year off to a great start. It starts with being present. Present in the moment; present in this season; present for your loved one(s) and present for yourself. It ends with being prepared for the now and the future.

Marriage is the best thing we could ever ask for when it comes to having someone to have fun with and enjoy life with, especially during the holidays. Let some old things go, add some new things and hold on to the things that you enjoy. Kiss often and by the way, hang some mistletoe in your house to remind you to do so. Create a plan to have fun and do things together. That is how you create a stress-free and beautiful ‘Berry Merry Marriage.’!

Want a fun and creative activity for you and your sweetheart to spice up the holidays? Download your Free 17 Kisses CheckList and watch flames soar as you practice the 17 Different Styles of Kissing!

Cynthia Greene

Remember: “If you build it, it will last”!

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Cynthia Greene is a Certified Professional Life Coach, Prolific Speaker, Best Seller Author & has a Masters in Human Relations. She has been helping others with creating strategies to build successful marriages and relationships for over 20 years.

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