The crying started as soon as the decorations started coming down. A woman learns importance of teamwork on wedding day

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*This is a work of nonfiction based on actual events I experienced firsthand; used with permission.

After the master of the ceremony gave his concluding remarks, I looked at my husband, still wearing my wedding gown, looking all cute, and said, Is that it?? Are we done? Do you mean people are now leaving? I couldn't believe the wedding was over. I fell on the floor and couldn't stop crying!

It took us over a year of rigorous, painstaking, careful, and thorough planning...not counting the four years the thought was just floating around in our mind without really acting on it!

We prayed as we have never prayed before because some ideas were not falling in place as we wanted them to and one of our sons got admitted to the hospital a week before the wedding. Family and friends were so much involved and even strangers who barely knew us...and now the day has come and is gone!

It only lasted from 11 am to 5 pm. We tried so had to work on a budget and even found a $15 wedding shoe that I wore on that day, but we still ended up spending a chunk of money. I tell you what, as soon as that day was over, I got a great revelation.

No matter how many people come to your wedding, how much money you spend, how expensive your wedding shoe is (mine was $15 ), or even how fancy your gown is, at the end of the day, everyone will leave and it will still be the two of you. Any debts you incurred, any borrowed gown you messed up, it's all on you! Everyone else has to go! and they should. Therefore, work as a team and let no one come between you and your spouse. I definitely have great and beautiful memories of that day nonetheless. I just love the fact that the universe has a way of helping us to learn, grow and appreciate those that are dear to us on happy days and also on sad days.

The cry was such a huge relief. I believe it was my body's way of saying, "I can now release this invisible burden I was carrying on my shoulders." I felt so good after.

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