How Can a Better Understanding of Relationships Improve Your Life?

Bill Abbate

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Developing a More Profound Understanding of Relationships in Our Lives

For whom are you living your life? Is it for you alone, or is it for you and someone else? So long as one man and one woman remain on the earth, mankind exists. Yet were one without the other, mankind would soon vanish. What is true for one, or two, is true for all of humanity.

Without the relationship of another human being, life has less meaning. If that void is not filled, life will become meaningless. It is well known the cruelest form of punishment is solitary confinement. We were never meant to be alone.

Yes, life not only exists in relationship, life is relationship. Therefore, what makes life worth living is being in relationship with another human being.

What about God, you ask? Without Him, we would not exist. Yes, we can have a wonderful, full, life-giving relationship with Him. This relationship will continue forever for those who believe. Yet back in the garden, God stated:

"And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." Genesis 2:18 NKJV

He made us to be in relationship not only with Him but with someone else on earth during our lifetime.

So I ask again, for whom are you living life? Do you see how important it is to have someone in your life? Do you see how vital it is for survival?

For whom are you living your life?

For me, I believe in God. I am alive because of Him and kept alive by Him. When my time on earth is up, I will be with God in heaven. Therefore, my first and foremost relationship is with God. He is my reason for living, which makes my life meaningful and full of purpose.

I also believe God wants us in relationships, that we may be like Him, love and be loved, show kindness and mercy, and all of the many wonderful attributes God displays. God gave us the perfect model of a relationship when He came to earth as Jesus. Jesus came to enable us to have a personal relationship with Him. With God.

Whether you believe in God or not, what relationships are most important to you? If you were to say you are living for yourself and at least one other person, it gives your life purpose.

"Without God, life has no purpose, and without purpose, life has no meaning. Without meaning, life has no significance or hope." Rick Warren

With or without God, we need the relationship with another person in life to have more purpose and meaning. The type of relationship is another matter. What type of relationship brings meaning to your life?

Don't all relationships bring meaning to life? It is not just your spouse who brings meaning to your life; it is also your children, as well as those in your family and friends. Each person affects your life. The less important the relationship is, the less meaning it brings to your life.

Yet even those relationships you keep at arm's length bring some meaning to your life. And what about your pets? Doesn't your relationship with them bring meaning to your life as well? I know mine certainly do!

Relationships come in many forms, yet the most important relationship outside of God is that person who is "comparable" to you. That means someone you are close to, especially your spouse. The closer you are to your spouse, the more purpose and meaning you have in life. They are the reason mankind continues on earth.

The importance of a close relationship

It is only in relationship that life is worth living. A relationship gives you a standard against which you can measure your life. A relationship requires communication, caring, and responsibility to one another to provide for their needs. Their needs can be as basic as food, as intimate as marriage, or in its highest form - spiritual.

As a former president of the United States said more than a century ago:

"Provision for others is a fundamental responsibility of human life." Woodrow Wilson

Providing for someone else in life adds meaning and purpose to your life. It is difficult to imagine being alone in life, with no other human contact. As one of the most famous poets in history penned 500 years ago:

"No man is an island, entire of itself." John Donne

Not only is providing for those we are in relationships a fundamental responsibility, but it's also what makes living worthwhile. As was stated by one of the most intelligent men to have ever lived:

"Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile." Albert Einstein

To live for others is to live selflessly.

"Selfless acts are a source of profound meaning for your self and your life." Ron Kaufman

To live selflessly in a way that provides for others brings happiness and joy into your life.

"Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give." ―Eleanor Roosevelt

No one who has ever made a difference in the world lives only for themselves. Although we human beings are a selfish lot, we cease to be human when we are so selfish that no one and nothing else matters in life. All one has to do is look at the death and destruction created by such extremely selfish people as Hitler, Stalin, and Mao Zedong. These three men alone were responsible for killing more than 150 million people!

Thankfully most people cannot conceive of taking even one life, which shows how such extreme selfishness distorts what mankind is meant to be.

Final words

In the end, we live for ourselves and others to provide and create a worthwhile life for them and us. Giving our life to others creates joy and happiness in our lives.

It is a wonderful thing that by giving to others, we receive more in return. We must never give to get or give to manipulate, which is the epitome of selfishness. We should give out of our heart, expecting nothing in return, then we will receive love, respect, joy, happiness, satisfaction, and so much more.

"We must give more in order to get more. It is the generous giving of ourselves that produces the generous harvest." Orison Swett Marden

A full life is only received when it is lived selflessly by living it for others.

May your life be rich and full of magnificent relationships!

I will ask you one final time, for whom are you living your life?

The next time you see them, hug them, express how much they mean to you, how deeply you appreciate them. Forever remember this moment as the reason God created you!

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