Opinion: Do it, show it.
I met my good friend, Sandra, sitting with her husband in their backyard, doing nothing. I observed as they just sat in silence, and the man just looked at her, and I felt uneasy. Then he turned to me, smiled, and left us.
"Sandra, why was he looking at you like that without saying a word?" I whispered. "Oh! That's how he shows love. I feel love when he looks at me without saying anything. I see love when he listens and, sometimes, asks questions to get the truth and facts. I feel so much love when we sit side by side without saying a word. We just feel the warmth of each other and enjoy ourselves. Efi, we rarely say love in words; love is what we do."
You mean you don't say, 'I love you.' "Rarely. Love is doing." "Is saying a word not an action?" Yea, you are right. Honey, talk is cheap, but the action takes time and effort. We prefer action in our relationship. It has worked for many years. After all, we don't talk too much.
"Why?" I interrupted.
That's how we show each other love with our actions. We listen, help, encourage, cheer, touch, and support each other. That is, be kind, be generous. That is our love secret," she explained.
Wow! Is it cultural? "No. Love is a verb in all cultures. It's an action. For me, it's what I do more than what I say. Action speaks louder than words. Efi, just do it. Show love -- smile, listen, hear, help, and set boundaries. You see, AD left us so that we can feel free to talk."
"OMG. My ex-husband rarely gave me a space to have fun with my girlfriends or mom. Okay, it makes sense. I learned something today."
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