At ten months old, the Myers twins are thriving, according to their mother. The babies are happy and growing like sprouts. Their mother, father, and older sister love them and do their best to make them happy.
Tammy and Jordan Myers are in a unique situation. They are being forced to adopt their twins, even though biologically they are their parents.
This is because of Michigan's Surrogate Parenting Act, passed in 1988; the law makes compensated surrogacy illegal in the mitten state. It goes one step further, saying that any agreement between the parties will not be recognized as legally binding.
As the twins' first birthday approaches, the Myers' hope to have the legal battle wrapped up. More than anything, they want to put this chapter behind them. And they are hoping their story will serve as a wake-up call to lawmakers that the law needs to be rewritten.
Scare And Surrogacy
When their eldest daughter, Corryn, was two and a half, the Myers decided to try for another baby. During the course of their trying to conceive, life threw a curveball at them: Tammy found a lump in her breast.
After undergoing chemotherapy, they learned that Tammy would be unable to carry any more babies. They were put in touch with different organizations to help them expand their family as they planned. A decision was made to harvest and freeze her eggs to be used to create a baby later.
Tammy shared a post on Facebook about the struggles they were facing and what the doctor told them. It was through this post that they were connected to Lauren, a friend of a friend.
Lauren loved being pregnant. She carried her two children and felt the call to help other families expand. She viewed it as a gift to the family.
The Myers and Lauren went to a lawyer to have the paperwork drawn up. Their attorney warned them about a worst-case scenario that would force them to adopt their biological babies, but nobody thought it would come to that.
They first tried to get a pre-birth order. This would have allowed Jordan and Tammy to add the babies to their insurance and give them legal rights before the little ones were born. This method might have worked, but the babies came eight weeks early.
Legal Fight Begins
Because the babies were born early, the Myers were forced to file for emergency legal rights. A judge denied their motion. They tried again by establishing Jordan as the babies' father, but the courts again rejected them.
Tammy told People magazine that the couple had no idea what was in store for them. They knew it would be a bit complicated, but they were not prepared for what unfolded next.
"We knew there would be paperwork involved, but we had no idea it would be a legal battle for the rights of our babies. I'm almost thankful we didn'tknow. I'm not sure we would have gone this route. But nothing could take away the blessing we have in our lives. We've opened the door to the injustice happening because of this outdated law."
Both Myers praise Lauren. They say she has been a rock during the whole ordeal and has advocated for them at every turn. The couple also praises her heart and giving spirit.
While the children are at home with them, in the eyes of Michigan law, Tammy and Jordan Myers have no connection to their biological children.
Advocating For A New Law
While Tammy and Jordan have been made the legal guardians of the twins recently, they are still undergoing the adoption process. Home inspections and background checks are being done. They have had to get recommendations from their family, friends, and even Lauren.
Once they have settled their situation, hopefully before the twins turn one, Tammy and Jordan want to work with lawmakers to overturn the 1988 law. Because there have been many advancements in reproductive technology, having babies and surrogate pregnancies have become easier. Despite this, Michigan's Surrogate Parenting Act hasn't been repealed or updated since it was signed into law.
Tammy told People magazine, "It's unfortunate our family has had to go through this, but it's a blessing it became so public. It has shown the damage this can do to a family trying to grow in a nontraditional way."
The Myers also called on Governor Gretchen Whitmer to change the law. They point out that 48 other states have updated their reproductive laws as technology has moved forward. However, Michigan has kept to the same law for 33 years, making it harder for families to grow in nontraditional ways.
As of press time, the Governor nor anyone from her office has offered a quote.
Jordan and Tammy await the official paperwork declaring them the parents of the babies created from their DNA and delivered into the world by Lauren. The process has not been easy on them.
November is National Adoption Month.