They just know the right time to quit
In today’s workout training, my trainer said while doing planks — it’s all about mind over matter, you can do it if you think you can do it.
You might have heard it a million times we need to push our limits each time. After all, quitting is a bad word right. No one wants to be a quitter, a loser.
They say, ‘most battles are first fought in the minds of the great warriors and then in the battleground.’ That’s true, you need to be mentally strong to execute anything in life. And it’s not just in workouts but even in other walks of life — you don’t quit your job because you had one bad day, you don’t walk out of a relationship because of one small argument and you certainly don’t give up on your dreams because someone said so.
You are smart and you don’t need anyone to tell you to push harder. What you need to know is that you don’t need to feel guilty if you quit.
“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Then quit. No use being a damn fool about it.”
— W.C. Fields
Growing up I had a poster with a poem that had a beautiful message on it — Rest if you must but don’t you quit.
It stayed with me for a long time — when I appeared for competitive exams, during job interviews, and even when I pursued my writing career. Sometimes though, I pushed myself too hard because I didn’t know when was the right time to quit. I stayed in an investment banking job far too long because I thought quitting that job would reflect poorly on me that I can’t handle stress or I am not able to manage the increasing workload.
While I was in the bubble, I didn’t realize I don’t have to deal with stress. I don’t have to work for 14 hours every day. I deserve to have a life outside of work. The job with all its money wasn’t the right choice for me. When I left that job, I felt liberated — I was happy to be out of that toxic place. I didn’t have another role in hand when I put down my papers — but within two weeks I got an offer from another company and I am still working here — it was the best decision I made.
Know when is the right time to persevere and when is the right time to give up.
Winners quit all the time — the key is in knowing when to quit.
Too early and you haven’t tried enough. Too late and you have welcomed undue stress. Knowing exactly when to quit is no science, it is a judgment.
If you don’t progress in your career and are stuck in a dying industry, quit that job. It doesn’t matter if you have just joined or been there for a decade. Do what’s right for your career. We often need to maneuver our career paths when things don’t work out the way we want to, and it’s all right.
If you don’t have the mental bandwidth to deal with a manipulative partner, let yourself free.
If you don’t enjoy your routine, change the course.
Quit for the right purpose
I am writing for the last two years with little monetary gain. But I try each day. I write no matter how raw and immature my piece might sound years later. I am not a gifted writer, and I want to trust the process to build my writing skill-set. I would worry about the results later. I won’t quit because I am not making enough money out of this passion. I’d quit when I stop growing or enjoying the journey.
Quit things because you don’t think they are the right fit for you or it fulfills your purpose anymore. Don’t quit because people weigh you down or you wish to fulfill short-term gratifications over long-term goals.
If you are a writer and you published a few stories, got a few likes but didn’t create a stir, don’t give up writing.
If you are an activist and your initial few blogs/initiatives didn’t ignite the spark, don’t give up social activism.
If you have exploited everything within your limits, you have exhausted all your resources and you have stopped learning or progressing — that’s when you should call it quits.
As I started with the analogy on workouts, let me end on the same note.
Just as in the workouts that extra step, that extra push, that extra minute is all that makes the difference, you need that in your life to make the difference you are longing for. The difference to your muscles, the difference to your mind, and the difference to the matters that matter.
The sense of accomplishing a little more than you could, the sense of being your best self, the sense of conquering the space that once felt impossible, is what makes you stronger physically, mentally, and spiritually.
But you should know when to stop. You should know where the limit is for you to call quits. You won’t be judged if you chose your sanity over worldly standards. You won’t be pronounced as a quitter.
A study showed more than 50% of the millennials who were surveyed quit their jobs to address mental health issues — burnout, anxiety, and even depression.
You would only be wiser to not speed yourself to death.
It’s not called quitting if you’re improving your life — Stacey