toxic romanticized myths about depression

Antoinette Lavoisier

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It wasn't until 2010 that having a mental disorder or depression was looked down upon by most people. It was widely stigmatized to the point that people who had a mental disorder or depression were not even seeking treatment. Older generations perceptions of depression and mental disorders was perceived as being weak minded and crazy. You could be bullied for having a mental illness or made fun of by your own family for being depressed. After 2010 the perceptions of mental illness has drastically shifted. In many ways it has improved because there is more information available about mental health treatment and more awareness about the importance of mental health. Unfortunately it has made another dark turn that is plaguing the youth of our world. One of the worst and most toxic common trends of today is the glorification and romanticizing depression and mental illness. Movies, tv shows, and social media have all contributed to this dangerous trend. Mental disorders and depression are portrayed in the media to be cool and are considered to be glamorously interesting. This is a list of toxic and dangerous beliefs about depression and mental illness and revealing the truth.

Myth 1. Being depressed is dark and beautiful

If you go on instagram and look up depression you will find millions of memes and quotes perpetuating depression. Society has begun to mix beautiful art and photography of cutting their wrist and overdoses like they are trying to sell you a luxurious experience . There is a trend of people posting themselves crying on social media claiming to show their real authentic self’s through the beauty of their tears. Tears aren't beautiful unless they come from joy and in no way is pain and suffering beautiful.

The typical experience of the average person who suffers from mental illness or depression disorder is one of severe trauma. Most people who have been diagnosed have had traumatic childhoods where they have experienced all or some emotional, psychological, physical and or sexual abuse. Mental disorders can be hereditary but in most cases they are inflicted by traumatic experiences that continue to haunt those who have been victimized by their past. In many cultures mental disorders and depression are not nurtured or taken seriously. It's the number one cause of most mental disorders never being treated. People that struggle with their emotional health experience feelings of shame and often hid their feelings from their families because of this. If they do seek help it often feels for them like it gets worst before it gets better. They may meet with a series of therapist to find the right match and that's if they can afford one. Mental health is extremely expensive with the base rate in most states starting at $ 250.00 by the hour. If you find discount or free treatment it greatly reduces the quality of care in most cases. Most people tend to go the medication route because it's cheaper. It's most beneficial for a lot of people to do a combination of both for the best results. Unfortunately the medication process is the only option for some and it can be the worst of the challenges in getting mental health treatment. Sometimes it can take years to find the right medication in the right dosage to meet your needs and still feel like a normal person. Psychological medications come with a load of side affects like weight gain, loss of memory, fuzzy vision, light sensitivity, numbness in mind and body, lack of libido or ability to orgasm, nauseous and constant lethargy. When you pile all of that on top of already being depressed and struggling with mental illness it breaks many people down.
A lot of people will quit the process within 3 medication tries because it only makes them feel worst. Rather they have mental health treatment or not it is an on going challenge most if not all of their life. People that struggle with mental health challenges have difficulty finding healthy relationships and generally trying to function in society as a whole. Many commit suicide when they cannot find peace . The true reality of the life of someone with a mental disorder is in no way beautiful or cute.

Myth 2. being depressed makes you more interesting

Abraham Lincoln, Emily Dickenson, and Vincent Van Gogh all had highly developed intellects with a talent for the arts because of their creativity. It has been scientifically proven that intelligent people are more likely to be depressed and have mental disorders. On the contrary as the old saying goes, "happiness is the wisdom of a fool and the folly of the wise." Intelligent people tend to be truth seekers and fact checkers and if you seek you will find that most truth and facts are displeasing disappointments. Children are initially happy and carefree because they do not know the dangers and disappointments of the world. The less you know the more safe you will feel and the happier you will be. Some people are so intelligent that they dissect the happiness right out of life to the point that they no longer enjoy anything anymore. Many depressed people have expressed feelings in their art, music, and writing about feeling so much that they go numb in an endless circle. What that actually means is they are constantly reliving their trauma and perceived truths. It's all they ever think about and feel. They look for different meaning in every search but they only find the same results until they can not feel anything anymore. That's what depression truly is. It's not too many feelings it's the loss of feelings and ability to respond to life anymore. When they finally submerge from their think tank of horror they are like zombie. Living but feeling nothing rotting way with that cycle in their minds. That's why they write about it, sing about it and make great works about it. In this kind of state of mind it's easy to write tragic screenplays and hit songs about the darkness because it becomes all they know. The public may be out here loving the art and singing to a song because they connect to a feeling being sang about or written about that they have been unable to express. They don't know what it took the individual to live through and cycle through daily to get those words out or draw that emotion. What may be perceived as interesting and beautiful to you may have come from a deep and painful place that someone is desperately clawing from the inside of a zombie to get out of. It's interesting for all the wrong reasons.

Myth 3. depressed people see the truth about the world

Depressed people only see their truth from a warped point of view. Bad things happen to all of us and horrific things sadly happen to most of us but that isn't all that life is about. Life is about the duality of light and dark. We are all more appreciative and happy for our good times because our bad times are so difficult.
Today's society treats depression like it's the thing to be to look cool and sound dark, mysterious and know the secrets about our world. Depression is not an accomplishment or rite of passage into wisdom or adulthood. How ever, it is certainly true that if you work hard to put the work into it that it requires to beat depression you will be a strong and emotionally healthy person. You can usually tell that someone knows the truth about depression by over coming it themselves, and most of the time they are trying to lead other people out of it. Those that are depressive cool kids are still depressed and not trying to change it because depression is their identity. They are always perpetuating depression and spouting of their cynical views from a personal dark prison inside themselves. If someone is still in depression they cannot be claiming to have seen the light of any truth. Depression is not a trendy charm bracelet that you can just slip on to look cool. Depression is serious and everyone who experiences it desperately wants out because it's not the kind of experience anyone wants for themselves.

If you or someone you know is depressed I urge you to see help as soon as possible. If you or someone you know has shown signs of self harm or has suicidal thoughts call United States: Contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (the Lifeline) at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Crisis workers are available 24 hours a day. Calls are free and confidential.

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