Ready to Move in Together? 4 Things to Consider Before the Big Step

Amy Christie

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Head over heels for each other and can’t imagine spending another hour apart? Moving in with your girlfriend will help make your relationship more stable. You have to be prepared for the challenges, though.

Sharing a home is not the same thing as staying over sometimes. When it’s occasional you don’t get to see the tedious parts and there’s rarely any patience needed for the other person’s unusual habits.

If you’ve been dating for a while and want to go on to the next level there’s a few things to keep in mind as you start planning the move.

Here’s how to make sure this step will add love not tension:

  • Don’t cancel alone time

You might be ecstatic about having your half close, but you will soon realize you both need some time on your own. That’s not a bad thing. It gives you the chance to sort out your feelings and emotions. Having some me time will refresh you and can go a long way towards eliminating any tension.

Creating space for your thoughts and time to go through your wishes and desires will bond you closer.

  • See the step as a learning journey

You and your girlfriend are doing this together. There might be obstacles or sticky points. Remember you two can make it through anything. That’s why you decided not to be apart anymore. Learn and grow together. Each accomplishment will be more fulfilling if you reach it holding hands.

  • Be ready for different habits

She might snore, there could be clutter around the place, or mornings could seem like a whirlwind rush. Take things one at a time and don’t expect your half to know what you like. If something annoys you try to talk about it in a positive way.

Living together is accepting each other’s wacky parts as well. You can’t expect the other person to be perfect or to guess your every wish. Even when she knows what you want she might feel differently so that’s not a reason to get tense.

Let the weird moments slide, be gentle, and dissuade annoying habits with nice words and positive comments. No one will change behavior when being yelled at. Practice patience, show love, and commitment. You will see their magical effect soon enough.

  • Reach a cleaning compromise

Deciding who does what to get rid of dust and have a clean and cozy home can take a bit of negotiating. Don’t volunteer for tasks that drive you crazy, but don’t try to impose duties on your partner either. The best way to go about it is to have a talk and see who likes using the vacuum cleaner, dusting, sorting books, refreshing furniture, or taking out the trash.

It’s ok if it’s not a 50-50 balance. Not everything goes according to a standard set in stone. As long as you are both happy with the compromise you can go on positively in love.

The atmosphere in your house is completely changed when there is harmony about cleaning and chores. You wouldn’t guess it, but it works like a charm.

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Amy Christie is a passionate writer and journalist, always striving to bring out the positive and create meaningful connections.

Dallas, TX

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