Shifting gears between household duties and work is always a trip. Even though I've found a few work at home hacks, perfection remains unattainable.
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“A two-year old is kind of like having a blender, but you don’t have a top for it.” -Jerry Seinfeld
Shhhhhhh. After my toddler threw a tantrum in the grocery store, he and my two-month-old baby are fast asleep in the car. FINALLY. This is a rare moment. Apparently, I overextended our outing and missed a crucial nap time. Whoops!
Honestly, I just needed milk.
But I guess I blew it when I also noticed I needed bananas, apple juice, eggs, cheese…Okay, I pushed it too far - I'm a little sleep-deprived, ya know?
"Children are a great comfort to us in our old age, and they help us reach it faster too."— JOHN RUSKIN
I keep forgetting that toddler outings are on a timer. We made it through the playgroup unscathed, so I should have quit while I was ahead, right?
The big kicker — the cashier forgot to ring up one can of tuna, and I told her three times not to worry about it as she rescanned it over and over again then announced on the loudspeaker she needed a price check on register 4.
Let's just say my Gumby-armed two-year-old wasn't a fan.
Luckily, we escaped the madness, tuna and all, and now my children sleep like cherubs in the car. At the same exact time. The clouds had parted!
So, I busted out my computer and began writing. It’s a tad uncomfortable, but you do what you have to do when you’re working at home with young children.
I type and smile in relief because I'm so exhilarated to be out of that grocery store.
But there is little time to rest because a story about trying to balance my family and working at a startup is due tomorrow. Yikes! (I better get back to that before my little buggers get up).
FYI: The rough draft discusses that I am in no way a work-life balance guru — and never will be.
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In fact, oftentimes, like when I’m wrangling a toddler in a middle of a temper tantrum, I'm a complete mess.But I keep on learning tricks along the way — like writing on a laptop in my car as two children sleep. Or disappearing into the back room when my husband has it "under control."And I do have more harmony than I did before I began this crazy adventure. Still, the juggling act continues.
“Working mothers’ laughter comes hardest when our double life is revealed for what it is: a juggling act in which the balls can drop at any time, invariably on our own head.” –Allison Pearson
I adore remote work and am so fortunate that I found a lifestyle that works for me, but it's not all a fairy tale. There are still moments when I want to pull my hair out and eat spikes.
We all have our own unique obstacles.
For one, I never would have imagined that I’d ever write with my computer jammed up next to my steering wheel while my car runs in the driveway.
Shoot! I missed my window, he’s up, gotta go, so work time’s over — for now. Wish me luck so that I complete the deadline!
There's no such thing as a "work at home guru", but we keep plugging away.
We can only hope to aspire to motivational author Catherine Pulsifer's words: "May you find the balance of life - time for work but also time for play. Too much of one thing ends up creating stress that no one needs in their life."
For all parents working at home with kids, you're rock stars, you're doing better than you know, and you got this!
(Perfection is overrated anyway.)
Harriet Braiker: "Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing."