My mom has a way of putting things in perspective, and her quotes benefit anyone during these trying times.
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It’s 9:30 am. My mom and I just finished our morning cups of coffee…via our Echo Shows.
Since deciding to stay clear from each other due to the pandemic and her preexisting condition, we meet daily on a screen.
Still, my mom and I talk every day, usually more than once.
I vent about the weight I feel while staying close to home, watching children, and working remotely — amid the world's constant chaos.
I confide that I know how lucky I am, but times are tough, and I feel more pulled in numerous directions than ever.
Yes, I call my mom and express these thoughts daily. We drink coffee. She listens.
But in addition to listening, my mama also offers nuggets of wisdom that get me off my high horse and propel me forward.
Because right now, there are no breaks, uncertainty lingers, and there’s little breathing room for many of us.
All we can do is our best with what we’ve been dealt, appreciate all we have and put one foot in front of the other to start another day.
Luckily, my days begin with my mom’s inspiring sayings and a cup of jo.
5 super inspiring sayings my Mama tells me during these trying times
1. “Your struggles matter, too. Stress is still stress.”
Lately, a lot of my venting has to do with the guilt I feel for, well, struggling.
I have a lot of blessings. I work from home, my husband and I both have jobs, we have food on the table, a roof over our heads, and more.
I’m not on the front line, my family is all healthy, and fortunately, I haven’t lost any friends or family to the virus.
Still, I admit, I’m overwhelmed. And I can’t shake this feeling no matter how hard I try.
- I’m overwhelmed with work while trying to chase a toddler.
- I’m overwhelmed by the political divide in our country that encroaches on my friends and family relationships.
- I’m overwhelmed by all the extra decisions I am making for my children — of being on edge while navigating what is best for their well-being.
I could go on, but I’m overwhelmed, even though I have so much. And this fact tears me up, too.
My mom does a great job validating these feelings because no matter how much I want to push all those thoughts away and remind myself of my blessings, those overwhelming thoughts remain.
“Your struggles matter, too. Stress is still stress,” my mom repeats.
Her words, as simple as they may be, bring me back to earth and momentarily allow me to grieve for all I’ve lost…the big and the small.
2. “You can be grateful but still be sad.”
I’ve written a lot lately about gratitude because I am so thankful for my life. But I’m human; I come with my own set of expectations and challenges.
Like anyone else, my life isn’t perfect, and fools gold resides amid the sparkling gems.
My mom reminds me that if we refuse to acknowledge what we’ve personally lost, even though everyone’s losses differ in magnitude from others, we do ourselves no favors.
As my mama also says,
“We can still practice gratitude while acknowledging despair.”
And we shouldn’t be afraid to air these feelings out in the wind now and then.
Come to think of it, I’m airing them out now.
3. “Some things are beyond your control.”
I’d be lying if I said the pandemic and political divide hadn’t strained some of my closest relationships.
Truth be told, I still don’t understand how masks during a pandemic became a political statement.
Or why so many of my friends still think we need to “stop the steal” in spite of the overwhelming evidence of the latest election’s legitimacy.
I’ve had relatives — and people whom I once thought of as friends — refer to me as a “liberal sheep,” and that's the tamest insult I felt like sharing.
I let my mom in on some of these strained relationships.
“Some things are beyond your control,” she echoes.
What a simple truth to get me through and jerk me back to reality.
No matter how much I may disagree, I can’t — nor ever will — control what other people think. Some things are, indeed, out of my control.
Fretting over this will get me nowhere.
4. “Take it one day at a time.”
I’m a prepper. A what? A prepper, also known as a PREcrastinator.
In other words, I love to prepare for everything way ahead of time. However, this year, most of my plans went out the window.
The future’s uncertainty, from everything like when vaccines will become available, will schools close, will the numbers rise . . . has taken its toll.
I’ve always been a woman on a mission, and before the pandemic, I had organized my life to where it was the most sustainable it had been in years.
I was proud of everything I accomplished and built from scratch. But in an instant, my mission crumbled.
I had enough trouble thinking about getting through the day, let alone a week from now.
Time took on a different form.
“Take it one day at a time,” my mom would say as I relayed my messy thoughts about future appointments, canceled events, lack of childcare, writing deadlines….
Her words pause my racing mind and remind me that, right now, one day at a time makes the most sense.
5. “You are doing an amazing job. Don’t forget that.”
It’s no mystery that a parent’s positive attention results in
- safety and security
- positive self-image
So this last quote, we all need to hear.
I’m 38 years old, and the positive words my mama says to me still hold immense weight. Especially these days, when we’re surrounded by extreme negativity on the news, social media — you name it.
Inspiring sayings and motivators from loved ones are what many of us deserve and need. So, I’ll end by relaying my mama’s inspiring quote to you because, like me, you need it.
“You are doing an amazing job. Don’t forget that.”
A HUGE shout out to my fabulous mama. Thanks for all you do. We hope to see you in person again soon!