When two people get married, they not only form a union between themselves but also between their families. In many cases, this means that the couple will have children from previous marriages.
While this can create a unique and loving family dynamic, as you’re about to discover, it can also present some challenges.
"I am absolutely not going to do that…"
As Newsweek reporter Taylor McCloud reported, a man expressed his willingness to adopt one of his wife's two kids, but not both of them.
The man said, "[My wife] has two kids from a previous marriage, 'James' and ‘Becky. I met them both after 6 months of being with my wife and we all moved in together after a year."
Recent events have led to his stepdaughter approaching him with the question of whether or not he would be willing to adopt her. And in a resounding yes, he gave his acceptance to follow it through.
He said, "I thought it was incredibly sweet and I was very moved. I've cared for her since she was very small and she thinks of me like her dad so I of course said yes."
He stated his wife started looking into the legalities of adopting Becky as soon as he gave his consent.
Generally speaking, the first step of adopting Becky is to file a petition with the court, which will trigger a home study by a social worker. The social worker will assess his fitness as a parent and prepare a report for the court. Once the court grants the petition, he will need to obtain permission from Becky’s mom. And the final step is to appear before a judge to complete the adoption.
After learning the basics of the adoption process, his wife then requested him to adopt her son too. He explained, "My wife said to me that if I adopted Becky I also needed to adopt James."
He expressed his disagreement with the plan and remarked, "I am absolutely not going to do that...he's never liked me and has no interest in bonding with me.”
The man indicated that he has never spent any "one-on-one" time with James and that the boy seldom speaks to him. Moreover, he said that his wife's son “doesn't want me to come to his school sports, doesn't want me to know about his life."
James's unfavorable demeanor and behavior led the man to a straightforward conclusion: He’s not his dad.
When everything was said and done, he expressed his disappointment and said, “I’m not sure he even really thinks of me as a stepdad but as his mother's husband.”
What do you think?
Should he stand his ground and just adopt Becky, the sister?
Or is he somehow obliged to adopt both children?
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