Woman Asks Gay Sister Not to Bring Her Girlfriend to Wedding

Abby Joseph

*With the source's consent, the following is a work of nonfiction based on the experiences of a close friend.

Coming out is revealing one's true identity to others. This is a tough choice; once made, it cannot be undone.

Fearing rejection from loved ones and colleagues is only one of several concerns that must be addressed before coming out. In addition, many are afraid of being singled out for prejudice or assaulted because of who they are.

Yet, coming out has numerous upsides as well. It encourages openness and helps individuals form more genuine connections with others.

But is there a right time and place to do it?

“It would be impossible to avoid the drama and gossip.”

In the next week, I will be walking down the aisle, and I cannot wait to become married and the wife to my soul mate. It's been an amazing and thrilling experience, and I feel so blessed.

With that said, nobody in my clan is aware that my sister is a lesbian. My grandparents, aunts, and uncles still think as they did in the 1900s; however, my younger cousins and siblings are more open-minded and contemporary in their outlook on life. 

My sister has been seeing her girlfriend for over a year at this point. I'm overjoyed that she’s met a wonderful woman; I've always wanted her to be happy.

As I was saying, it's a well-guarded secret.

I have been urging her to come out of the closet for years now since I am aware that it causes her stress. My guess is that once she stops hiding, she'll feel a lot better. In addition to that, I'm certain that some members of the family are already aware.

She is against it since she is conscious that certain members of the family won't accept it, which would lead to conflict. In my view, the sooner we are able to identify the bad seeds, the sooner we will be able to get rid of them.

I have no interest in having anybody in my life who is intolerant of my sister.

Because she has made the choice not to, I assumed that she would remain silent for the time being. That is, up until a few weeks ago when she announced that she would be bringing her girlfriend with her to my wedding.

That was not the manner in which I anticipated her to reveal her true self.

On any other day, I'd be all for it, but I just don't believe the day of my wedding is the perfect time for it. It would be impossible to avoid the drama and gossip.

When I asked her why she thought the day of my wedding was so important to her, she answered that it was because she wanted to celebrate love with the two people who mean the most to her: her partner and me.

This is too much for me to bear.

If it came down to it, I'd go to war with my whole family to protect my sister. But it's supposed to be a celebration, not a family fight, and I can't do that to my husband. I didn't even tell him; he's already stressed, and I don't want to make things worse.

When I urged her to go to my ceremony by herself, I did it with a terrible feeling in my chest. She left my home in a state of distress, without speaking a single word before she ended up taking off.

She sent me a text message the next day to let me know that she was going to be going by herself. I called her countless times, but she didn't pick up, and neither of my parents appeared to possess any idea what was going on.

I had to wait a few days before I eventually received a callback, and when I did, she stated that she understood, but things were still awkward and uncomfortable.

What are your thoughts?

Did the bride-to-be make the wrong decision by asking her sister not to bring her partner to the wedding?

Let me know what you think in the comments, and don't forget to share this article with your friends and family.

Thanks for reading,


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