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Weddings are special occasions for the bride and groom as it celebrates their unity, love, and commitment. As a lot goes into this ceremony in the form of money, time, and ideas, those organizing it would be persistent about doing things a certain way. They won't take any chances that would ruin the function.
The author shared an incident regarding this topic on Reddit. The author's sister, the bride, forced her to remove the necklace she wore despite it being of huge sentimental value because it looked ugly. However, the author wore it to the wedding, angering her sister.
Now, on the one hand, you might be thinking the author could have easily taken off the chain for a day. On the other hand, as the author's sister, the bride should have understood that the former is emotionally attached to the chain, and asking her to remove it for a wedding was wrong.
"It looks ugly."
The author, a 24-year-old girl, was appalled when her sister, the bride, made an unusually cold request. She wanted the author to remove her necklace, which was made from blowing their brother's ashes. The author wrote:
"My necklace is a glass bead that was blown using our brother's ashes and his cremation tag. He died unexpectedly a few years ago, and afterward, my mom, sister, and I each had matching necklaces made. She rarely wears hers, but mine is a fixture on my body; I haven't taken it off since we received them. My brother was the person I was closest to in the world; he was severely autistic, and I was his "person" for everything. He and my sister were never very close."
This happened right after the rehearsal dinner, and the author broke down in tears after her sister left. She opened up to her mother, who was also uncomfortable with removing her necklace. On the wedding day, as they left the salon to the aisle, the bride insisted they remove the necklaces. The author wrote:
"She told my mom and I that we had to take off our necklaces and put them on the bouquets. I told my sister that I didn't want to take it off, and she told me that the tag was "ugly" and that I needed to put the necklace on the bouquet. The wedding coordinator stepped in and told me that I needed to take my necklace off now, and I responded with, "It's my brother's ashes; I'm not taking it off."
Luckily, the author's mother came to her rescue, suggesting she hide the tag and bead in her hair by turning the necklace. The author did so while she was walking down the aisle and clicking photos. But her sister still seemed angry.
"My sister didn't interact with me at all for the rest of the day and hasn't spoken with either of us since the wedding. My mom is on my side, but I'm not sure if I took the wrong step here."
What do you think? Was the author wrong to have gone against the bride's wishes and worn the necklace? Or should she have thought from the bride's perspective and done as she said for a few hours?