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Humiliating someone in public due to insecurity is a petty and immature way to handle one's emotions. Another reason people put others down is if they feels inferior to them.
But how do you deal with such a person, especially when they're demeaning you in public?
The author of a recent Reddit post shared his experience. As a stay-at-home dad, his wife's ex-husband called him "nanny" at a party, and he was prompted to reply smartly. This post received over 7.5K upvotes and 1.3K comments, with many Redditors appreciating the author's reply.
"He humiliated me."
The post's author has been married to his wife for eight years, and they have a five-year-old child and another 18 months old toddler together. His family also includes his wife's nine-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, Santana. As the author is a stay-at-home dad, he has been Santana's primary caretaker for the past seven years, and the girl loves him.
The author wrote:
"Mark (wife's ex-husband) has always felt insecure about my place in Santana's life. I've always encouraged her relationship with her dad while also being a place she can go to in order to vent about both her parents. I've never asked her to call me dad, but I've made it clear I love her the same as her siblings. And she's also said she loves me and considers me her second dad."
Driven by jealousy and insecurity, Mark often insults the author for being a stay-at-home dad. Although his wife shut Mark down whenever he did something hurtful, the author ignored him and reduced their encounters.
However, one day, his wife was feeling unwell, and it was up to the author to collect Santana from Mark's house. The author shared:
"However, yesterday, my wife was sick and asked me to pick up Santana. She really couldn't get out of bed, and I knew Mark wasn't going to drive out to us (he's refused in the past). So, I went over to his place to pick her up.
He was throwing a BBQ and had some family there. I had never met any of them. Santana ran into my arms, excited to see me and shouting my name. A few people looked at Mark curiously. He laughed and said, "That's Santana's nanny". I shook my head and said, "I'm her step-father, Greg. Nice to meet you all." Mark turned red and barely said goodbye to Santana. I didn't think much of it outside Mark just being Mark."
Later, the author's wife got a message from Mark about how he felt insulted by the author. The author wrote:
"Mark texted my wife later saying I "humiliated him," and given I'd likely never see those people again, I shouldn't have said anything. My wife told him he was overreacting, and he then texted me, saying I had no right to correct him in his own home. He asked what the big deal was in his family thinking I'm her nanny."
Now the author is wondering whether he should have just ignored Mark like he usually does. Or was the author right to reply smartly to Mark as he was humiliated in public this time?