*This article is non-fiction taken from social media discussion boards and verified experts/specialists.*
I believe in taking responsibility for one's actions, whether right or wrong. That’s a part of growing up, and doing so helps differentiate between good and bad. However, many people don’t share my opinion, and some get called out - like this woman.
I read a Reddit post about a married woman who was caught having a relationship with a client by her husband. As the affair was against her company’s policy, she lost her job. But she plays the victim card and claims life is unfair at home to win her parent’s support.
The online post was written by the woman’s sister, who is waiting to start graduate school and, in the meantime, is taking a break at home with her parents. The author’s sister went to an Ivy League Law school and got into one of the biggest law firms in America as a litigation lawyer right after graduation. She then met and married a surgeon who loved her to the moon. They also have a child. But things went downhill by having an affair, and the author explains further:
She had an affair with her client. His litigation case was from the same acts as his criminal trials. He's a sc*mb*g who had a criminal record already. Despite his parents having money, his crimes were enough to put him in jail still. He wasn't in jail when they met, but my sister got caught while visiting him after his sentencing. She also smuggled things into the jail for him and destroyed evidence. She lost her job at the law firm. She tried fighting it but got disbarred because having a romantic relationship with a client was forbidden.
The author’s sister is now fighting for custody of her son, who is actually her affair partner's, while working in the stock room at Target. But the issue at hand is something else. The author wrote:
I'm tired of my sister complaining about how unfair everything is and how she was mistreated, and it wasn't that bad. She constantly goes on about it and acts like the victim. I finally snapped. I told her everything was her fault and she had no one else to blame. I also said it's the wrong attitude if she wants to restart her life and get custody of my nephew back.
When the author blurted out the truth, her sister got furious and asked for an apology for taunting her when she hit rock bottom. But the author doesn’t think she did anything wrong and believes her sister should accept her mistakes to grow.
What do you think?
According to Make Me Better, a person won’t admit their mistakes if they believe they become weak by doing so. Sometimes, they fear their acknowledgment of the mistake will be used against them. Also, not owning up to their mistakes can boost their ego and is more satisfying.
However, refusing to accept mistakes isn’t beneficial, as the person can accumulate subconscious feelings of guilt and shame, eventually causing depression and anxiety. It also shows others that the person can be objective about oneself.
So, should the author apologize to her sister as an act of support, or should she stand by everything she said for her sister’s good?