Man says he 'settled' for his wife because her best friend was taken

Aabha Gopan

Should a person be their partner’s first best choice?

A person might not get the love and respect they deserve in a relationship if they’re their partner’s second-best choice.

The person might experience jealousy and anxiety and have low self-worth and -esteem. The person might also start to judge themselves based on everyone else. Eventually, the relationship might become strained.

This topic was highlighted in a recent Reddit post in which a man announces during dinner that he settled for his wife because her best friend got a boyfriend.

Woman decides to divorce husband of 10 years

The author starts the post by saying that she and her best friend had always been a group of two until the author’s husband joined, when she was 18. For the author, it was love at first sight, and she had a crush on her husband for a long time. However, she didn’t tell him this because she didn’t want to ruin their friendship.

When she was 20, her husband told her he liked her, and they married at 22. Her best friend also married around the same time, and they kept in touch.

Having said that, a few months back, the author and her husband invited her best friend and her best friend’s husband for dinner. During the dinner, the author's husband announced that he had a strong crush on her best friend but decided to settle for her (the author) because her best friend got a boyfriend.

The author wrote, ‘her whole world just came crashing down.’ She realized their ten years of marriage were just settling for the second best for him. Since then, he just stopped being attractive to her, and they stopped getting intimate. She is considering divorce now because she is disgusted by him.

But her best friend thinks they are perfect together and shouldn’t throw away that. Her husband believes the same.

What do you think of the author’s situation? Share your thoughts below.

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