Is it right to exclude one’s wife from family vacations?
However, people might exclude those they don’t like or get along with from family vacations.
This topic was highlighted in a recent Reddit post in which a woman overhears her husband telling his family that he didn’t want to take her on his family’s vacation.
The author starts the post by saying that her husband goes on vacations with his family annually. Since they married only a short while ago, his family and the author don’t see each other much and aren’t very comfortable with each other.
So when his family planned their annual vacation last week, she asked whether she could join. Her husband was hesitant, but she insisted she joins, citing it as an opportunity to get to know his family. Although his family was surprised to see her, they were welcoming.
On the 3rd of the vacation, she prepared salad, and everyone else was outside talking when she overheard her mother-in-law say:
“Did she really have nowhere else to spend the weekend?”
At first, she thought they were talking about someone else, but then her husband replied:
“I know!!!! And I didn't want to bring her with me but what was I supposed to do? You know how pushy she can get.”
The author instantly understood they were talking about her and was shocked. She then realized that they considered her an inconvenience despite her cleaning, caring for the kids, and cooking.
Socially excluding a person
The author went home on the first flight she got and ignored her husband’s messages and calls. After returning from the vacation, he called her disrespectful and juvenile and said she was wrong to have eavesdropped on them.
He also told her to stop pushing to be around his family and that they will warm up to her eventually. He implied that she was wrong to go on vacation in the first place and created a bad impression by leaving.
What do you think? Should the author have not left after overhearing how they didn’t want her there?
Share your thoughts below.