How should one react when their significant other doesn’t understand one’s emotions after miscarriage?
Losing a child can leave a person broken. People going through this situation might experience grief, shock, guilt and failure, emptiness, jealousy, and loss of control. Some of them have even reported having lost trust in their bodies.
What is worse is when one’s significant other doesn’t support them.
This topic was highlighted in a recent Reddit post about a man who said his wife might be incapable of being a mom in front of his family after she miscarried. This online post went viral with over 19K upvotes and over 1K comments and was also published in Newsweek.
Shouldn’t one be considerate of their spouse’s feelings?
The author starts the post by saying that she and her husband have been trying to have a child for three years. She has had a series of miscarriages, none of which were successful. She admits she’s going through a lot of overwhelming tensions and emotions.
Recently, the couple went to her husband’s family house for dinner. Her mother-in-law brought up miscarriage and displayed disappointment, and went on about the possible reason. So her husband chimed in that the author could be incapable of being a mom.
The author couldn’t believe her husband said that, especially since no doctor had said she had any issue.
Spouse’s support after miscarriage
A partner can support their spouse after miscarriage by spending time with her, holding her, and listening to her.
Unfortunately, the author’s husband doesn’t know this. So he thought what he said wasn’t offensive.
He felt he was just pointing out the truth. He explained he loves the author and thinks she is perfect, but she is flawed in that area. So the author left the dinner even though her husband repeatedly called her back.
After her husband reached home, he defended what he said and asked the author, not to police words. He also said she embarrassed him and his parents by leaving mid-dinner.
Now the author wonders whether she overreacted.
What do you think? Share your thoughts below.